Behold, children are a heritage from the LORD, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one’s youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them! He shall not be put to shame when he speaks with his enemies in the gate. (Psalm 127:3-5 ESV).
As we continue the construction of the arrow we look at the addition of the arrow’s nock. All of the pent-up power in a bow is of no value if it cannot be effectively transferred. That’s why every arrow, at the rear of the shaft, has a small groove that holds the bowstring. This is called the nock. The nock keeps the arrow in place on the string until the power is released.
The nock can be compared to the third core ingredient necessary in a child’s life: relationships. When someone’s life intersects with God and with people, a power transfer occurs. None of us was intended to make a journey through life alone. We need the strength, comfort, encouragement, resources, and power provided by God and others.
I am always a little bemused by the abdication of our children’s training to other entities. We want the school to train them in practical and applied education. We want the church to train them in practical and applied spirituality. Neither of these is the primary educational tool for our children. The home is God’s designed means for the physical, emotional, and spiritual development of our children. Let me mention four strategies to accomplish this task:
- First, make prayer a part of your family fabric. We should help our children understand that prayer is the conversation we have each day, throughout the day, that ensures our relationship with our heavenly Father.
- Second, we ought to insure that our children recognize our dependence and interest in the Scripture. This is done through making it the fundamental repository for the truth that determines our behavior.
- Third, guide your children in the devilment of their community. Of course this includes a community of faith; however, it also should include their circle of friends.
- Fourth, insure that you teach your children the importance of mission. This is that component that develops an other-person focus. It insures that our children will not become self-centered and selfish. Children also need parents who will build into them the ability to love others.
And, of course, all this must be wrapped in relationship. Teaching truth without a relationship with your child produces rebellion. Similarly, relationships without truth can result in a self-indulgent teen, one who is spoiled. The best school to learn about relationships and resolving conflict is in the “University of Family.” Get a secure nock!
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